Healing With EMDR
If you’ve spent your life trying to be everything for everyone—always saying “yes,” avoiding conflict, and striving for perfection—you’re not alone. So many women carry the weight of these expectations, often without realizing how deeply ingrained they are.
These patterns usually start early in life. Maybe you felt like love had to be earned through achievement or that your needs were less important than keeping the peace. Over time, this can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, and exhaustion from constantly trying to meet impossible standards.
Why These Patterns Are Hard to Break
People-pleasing and perfectionism often stem from attachment wounds—early experiences that shaped how you see yourself and relate to others. If, as a child, you learned that approval, love, or safety depended on how well you performed or how much you could accommodate others, it makes sense that these patterns feel automatic now.
You might notice:
1. Struggling to say no without guilt
2. Overanalyzing interactions, worried you’ve upset someone
3. Holding yourself to unrealistic expectations
4. Feeling anxious in relationships, especially when asking for what you need
How EMDR Therapy Can Help
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a therapy that helps your brain process past experiences in a new way. Instead of staying stuck in old patterns—like believing you must be perfect to be loved—EMDR helps you reprocess these experiences so they no longer hold the same emotional charge.
Through gentle guided techniques, EMDR can help you:
Heal the deeper wounds that fuel people-pleasing and perfectionism
Shift self-judgment into self-compassion
Feel safer setting boundaries and expressing your needs
Develop a stronger sense of self-worth
Feel at Peace
It’s not about becoming someone else—it’s about returning to yourself, free from the weight of old patterns.
If you’re curious about EMDR and how it might help, I’d love to connect. Feel free to reach out for a consultation
